Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Status Gain

Status...what is the importance of it?

I see that having a higher status, obviously, helps open doors and you are able to do more. I understand that you can gain status by your hard work and completely deserve it, but there certain people who try to gain status on their own, by trying to befriend the "right" people....STATUS GAINERS.

Now, don't get me wrong, I believe you can make connections and meet people and I believe God opens doors for you through those connections. But what I'm talking about are people who will use your friendship to get themselves to that next level.

I have learned (the hard way) that status is more of a priority to some people, than friendship. I have witnessed it many times and have at times, even been the "friend" that gets used as a step stool to the next level.

I really do know, and completely understand, that most of the time I am of no importance in the world of "big people". I came from small, we never had much and so I don't freak out because I don't have much. But I still have big dreams for myself and I believe those dreams will be lived out someday. So I'm okay with being a "little person", cause I'm not concerned with who I know and what I can get out of that person. I'm concerned with the people around me "little or big" and what I can do for them, give to them, pray for them or what I can speak into their lives, without expecting anything from them in return!

I have become aware of certain people who play this game and I refuse to play along anymore.
If you're always concerning yourself with getting to the next step and making it to the top and if you don't give anything to the friends around you, won't you just be lonely all by yourself up there??

Friday, February 12, 2010

Put an end to Gossip

I've been thinking about something alot lately, GOSSIP.
Just that word alone makes me sick to my stomach!

I think all over the world people experience gossip, either they are a part of the problem or worse, they're the subject.
Now, I'm not saying I've never gossiped before, I have and I'm not proud of those moments, and I can add, gossip is SOoo tempting, you start to hear something about someone and you just HAVE to hear more and then tell someone else, but that is the very instance that you should say, you know what, it stops here.

One thing that really bothers me are people who just live on gossip and sadly enough some of those people are right there next to you in church, maybe even your "friend", but you know what, if they're talking about other people, they're talking about you too, no matter how close you are.

I've had moments where someone wanted to tell something SO bad, but was told they could ABSOLUTELY NOT say a word, so they told the story without naming names, can I tell you something, THAT IS STILL GOSSIP!!
Not only is that completely unfair to the person you're talking about but it's unfair to the person you're telling it to, now that person is going to be thinking about that THING that they have no idea who it's about!

I wish I could say that some of these people who gossip are as young as me or younger but they're not, and I thought you grow out of the urge to gossip!

I found the following in an article online..."We live in a social society where we share in each other’s lives. We are also curious people, always desiring to be “in the know. Yet, gossip is not helpful. Gossip actually serves to break the trust of the people around you."

Spreading rumors only hurts others and destroys our credibility. Who is going to trust us with anything when they think we’ll tell everyone else?
I know some people are KNOWN for being the gossip, and those people don't get certain information for that very reason.

The Bible has a lot of important statements regarding gossip and clearly tells us to do more than discuss other people’s lives.

Leviticus 19:16 – “Do not go about spreading slander among your people. Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. I am the Lord.” (NIV)

Gossip also creates disunity in the church, if we are not unified then there is more room for Satan to attack us.

Proverbs 11:13 – “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” (NIV)

Gossip is also a way we judge others, which really isn’t our job. God is in charge of judging people, not us. Gossip really only ends up creating greed, hate, envy, murder.

Matthew 7:1 – “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.” (NIV)

Romans 1:29 – “They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips.” (NIV)

Knowing that this is going on between Christians really hurts me, maybe it's not about me, but are we not supposed to be a spiritual family?

If you want to avoid gossip, focus on creating helpful and encouraging statements. Let the gossip end with you and always remember, if you don’t want people to gossip about you, then don’t participate in gossip yourself.
Let's try to put an end to Gossip, and those in the church, we're spiritual family, let's come together in unity!